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Self-Esteem in Older Adults
 
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is a term used to describe the way we see ourselves. Changes in health, roles, activities, and lifestyle that occur with aging may affect how you feel about yourself. You may feel less important as you become more dependent on others. It may be harder for you to feel good about yourself.

How can I tell if I have good self-esteem?
If you agree with 5 or more of these statements, your self-esteem is good:
  • I do not feel I must always please other people.
  • I generally feel that I like myself.
  • I speak up for myself and feel I have rights.
  • I am happy most of the time.
  • I feel that my struggles are normal ones and not my fault.
  • I do not need to prove that I am better than others.
  • I do not need constant validation or approval from others.
  • I can make friends easily.
  • I feel good about myself without praise from others.
  • I feel pleased, rather than envious, when those I care about have success in life.

How can I increase my self-esteem?
You may have high self-esteem when you have accomplished some goals, like having a good marriage or having done well at a challenging job or in school. When you retire you have a lot more free time. You may feel you have nothing to do. You may not have as much money. Your friends may die or move away.

You may feel a loss of control as you get older. This can contribute to low self-esteem. You can control many things that will help to increase self-esteem. Some of these include:
  • Take good care of your body. Eat well, be well groomed, get enough sleep, and get regular exercise. If you feel well physically, you will feel better emotionally. Take your medicines as prescribed, and learn more about how to deal with any medical conditions you have. Make sure you talk to your health care provider about your medical concerns.
  • Take control of your time. Be as active as possible. Think about what it is that you do well and that you can share with someone else. Renew or build new interests and hobbies.
  • Take control of your relationships and your social life. Get active in a church, a social group, or a club. Find out what your local senior center has to offer.
  • Be assertive in social situations and at home. When you act as if you deserve something, you will tend to value yourself more.
  • Make positive statements about yourself (such as, "I am a kind and caring person). Write them on cards and look at the cards several times a day no matter how you feel. This can remind you of the goals you have regarding your self-esteem.
  • If something goes wrong, be careful about blaming yourself. If you are responsible for a mistake, accept the responsibility, repair the error, and move on. You can make mistakes and still be a good person.
  • Volunteer to help others. This can give new purpose and meaning to your life. It helps you feel good about yourself.
  • Become more aware of negative self-statements in your mind, for instance saying to yourself, "I did that badly." Counter the negative statements with positive ones, such as, "That didn't turn out well, but it wasn't all my fault."
  • Talk with others about the sources of low self-esteem in your childhood. An accepting and trusted friend or a therapist can help you understand experiences that were not your fault. As you become aware of how your life experiences contributed to your low self-esteem, replace criticism with praise. Learn to be your own "best fan."

If it is hard for you to have high self-esteem, no matter what you do, it may be a sign of depression. Depression is common in older adults and is very treatable.

Warning signs for depression include:
  • sleeping too much or too little
  • losing interest in usual activities
  • crying more or being unable to cry when you normally would
  • feelings of hopelessness about the future.

If you are depressed, ask for help from your health care provider.

Older adults who feel happy and in control of their lives often have higher self-esteem than the young or the middle-aged. Good self-esteem will help keep you both happy and healthy.




  Disclaimer: This content is reviewed periodically and is subject to change as new health information becomes available. The information provided is intended to be informative and educational and is not a replacement for professional medical evaluation, advice, diagnosis or treatment by a healthcare professional.

  HIA File AGI3032F.HTM Release 9.0/2006. Copyright © 2006 McKesson Corporation and/or one of its subdiaries. All Rights Reserved.


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